Ninatoo
Before I start I must say that I could be completely wrong and it is possible for hackers to ssh into your network and so on. In fact, for someone in the know it's really not that difficult - although unlikely.
This is where your PC guy at the store is coming from. For simplicity sake he's just telling you it's impossible.
To a location hacker they would actually have to go out their way to surf via your browser. Why not just surf their own and via your account, or spoof yours? If nothing else it leaves traces of them on your machine.
Silly for them.
If they have the knowledge to control your machine there's a very good chance you wouldn't know about it.
More likely, from my own experience: A neighbour has bought a wireless router and muddled through. Instead of joining their own network when the new flashy 'join network' option appears.. they have joined yours. Surprisingly this can happen even if their own wireless node is 2 feet away from them. Channels, interference, people being idiots etc...
After joining your network (thinking it is theirs) they have then set up a network printer. This is the key. Good chance it is a neighbour within 100 feet assuming it's a standard router.
As to the porn history. I'm a cynic, what can I say. It's not even feasible for a trojan to work like this. Why would anyone leave a trace on your machine? Unless they are a bit clueless of course.
The difficulty in running porn 'through' your login just isn't worth it.
I would look closer to home. If you can truly say 100 percent that no-one in your household has had the access to go to those sites - truly (forget the time stamp) then someone is messing about with your files but they are more of a nuisance than a threat.
Of course, you can just press the reset button on the back of your router to make it all go away. Until the next uber-hacker gets a hold of you of course.
Remember, the best way to get a WI-FI password from your neighbour is to go in for a cup of tea and take a note of the big sticker with the password on the side of the modem. Long live social hacking