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Scotty100 wrote:Thank you for the kind words. I'm afraid to say a good part of my current position is self inflicted. I was at a Glasgow Warriors match last month and after 10 months sober thought it would be ok to have just one wee malt to celebrate our win. WRONG. Back to square one and I am so disgusted with myself.
Scotty100 wrote:For years I was in denial...
Scotty100 wrote:On reviewing my life history with my psychologist...
Scotty100 wrote:Taking alcohol neutralises the effect of my lithium medication and has let the fecking big black dog back out of its kennel.
Scotty100 wrote:It is a very scary place to be. The pain of alcohol withdrawal and detox again is frightening me.
After a while you can recognize the signs
So if you get it wrong you'll get it right next time (next time).
Gerry Rafferty, Get It Right Next Time
glasgowken wrote:Sorry to hear what people are going through
Personally i'm going to have to take some action in the new year, I can't go on like this. For years there's been no highs, only lows and middling numbness. No one can go on like that.
BrigitDoon wrote:Scotty100 wrote:Thank you for the kind words. I'm afraid to say a good part of my current position is self inflicted. I was at a Glasgow Warriors match last month and after 10 months sober thought it would be ok to have just one wee malt to celebrate our win. WRONG. Back to square one and I am so disgusted with myself.
No, no, no. 10 months is an outstanding achievement. Stand back and admire it. If you've done it once, you can do it again. It's like learning to ski. You fall over a lot to start with, then it becomes less frequent and eventually it becomes quite unusual. You're not back to square one. You won't have those particular ten months again and you're older and wiser.Scotty100 wrote:For years I was in denial...
...and now you're not. There's half the battle.Scotty100 wrote:On reviewing my life history with my psychologist...
Professional help too. Good.Scotty100 wrote:Taking alcohol neutralises the effect of my lithium medication and has let the fecking big black dog back out of its kennel.
Alcohol will cause depression on its own.Scotty100 wrote:It is a very scary place to be. The pain of alcohol withdrawal and detox again is frightening me.
Speak to your GP about having something to settle the nervous system so that you don't get the heebie-jeebies. Stopping suddenly can be quite risky. Withdrawal brings exaggerated nerve impulses and things like Gabapentin can reduce the effect.
Keep plugging away with the psychologist. When you find out what's at the bottom of it all, hopefully, you'll be able to deal with it.After a while you can recognize the signs
So if you get it wrong you'll get it right next time (next time).
Gerry Rafferty, Get It Right Next Time
RapidAssistant wrote:I am having to deal with it myself - my Mum passed away just 8 weeks ago and although I'm coping reasonably well myself, my Dad has taken it really badly.
RapidAssistant wrote:I am having to deal with it myself - my Mum passed away just 8 weeks ago and although I'm coping reasonably well myself, my Dad has taken it really badly. One of the big problems is, as an only child I have had sole responsibility for sorting out his affairs, it's a generation thing I guess he just isn't capable of doing all the day to day grind associated with running a household, and it doesn't help when you have banks dragging their feet divving up the estate (when someone dies 'in testate' i.e. without a will, the problems in trying to release money to pay bills adds another dimension to the aggro and grief)
Makes matters worse when he lives in Glasgow still, and I am trying to manage things from 64 miles away up here in Perth. But I am having to watch my Dad making himself ill - since the tragic event he's already ended up in GRI once with a near-heart attack which was mercifully avoided just before it was too late, now he has turned to drink as I have discovered. Not good, my advice is to get professional help straightaway as I have forced him to go and see the doctor.
It makes no sense to be kind to others but not to yourself - yet that's exactly what many people do. They berate, push and deny themselves in a way they would never consider treating anyone else... Dr Cantopher explains how to get and stay well, achieve your goals and be healthier and happier.
Toxic People and Places
(see p.107 [Chapter 7 - Dealing with toxic people and places -> p.29 - Parents...])
People are the worst stressors of all. While it is undoubtedly true that the best experiences in life come from our relationships with others, so do the worst ones. Though you can change a hateful job, though time heals losses and traumas, pernicious people are always there, digging away at you, pushing until you go under. Many of my patients* with stress-related illness have one or more illness-inducing people in their lives; often several. My patients are mostly the good, diligent givers of the world. Most people are quite nice most of the time anyway, but a small minority aren't. They are on the lookout people like you, those they can take advantage of. They've got sharp antennae, and if you don't actively keep them away, they'll find you. Before you know it you'll be surrounded by these takers and would be excused for thinking that most people are selfish, critical and undermining. They aren't; it's just that these ones are, and you're letting them use you.
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